Is my hymen intact and if not how can I make popping my cherry as painless as possible?

I'm a virgin, I don't do gymnastics or use tampons. I tried fingering myself to stretch the vaginal opening, and was able to fit my index finger a little more than halfway (it felt a bit uncomfortable though and I didnt even keep it in for more than like 20 seconds). However when I was around 10 years old, I was being dumb and trying to balance on a railing about an inch wide. I lost my balance and fell right on top of the pole, legs on either side. It HURT like hell, and I did bleed a bit, but I dont know if that blood was from my hymen breaking or just an abrasion around that area. So do you think my hymen broke from that, because my boyfriend has tried inserting himself but we barely get in cus I find it painful? Even if it was broken then, do you think it has since then healed, reinstating an intact hymen? Also, when fingering yourself, is there a certain direction your finger should go (like is there a slope or something, should it be directed towards my back or stomach, etc)?